Saturday, 10 March 2018

Treat Yourself How You Treat Others // Self Care 101

So the popular saying goes 'you should treat others how you would like to be treated', however for some of us, we treat others kindly and don't quite do the same for ourselves. Hence, the title of this post and the twist on the popular phrase. Treat yourself how you treat others!

Other popular phrases on kindness:

  • "In a world where you can be anything, be kind"
  • "Kind words cost nothing"
  • "Throw kindness around like confetti"
  • "You will never regret being kind"

Now, these all apply to being kind to others. But what if we apply them to self-kindness? You can be kind to yourself, kind self-talk costs nothing, etc. Kindness to the self is just as important as being kind to others! Have you ever been mad at yourself for something that you could have easily forgiven someone else for? Do you give great advice but never take your own advice? These are signs that you are too harsh on yourself and need to be kind. We give ourselves self-imposed double standards, allowing people to make mistakes or do things that we just wouldn't allow for ourselves! You could tell someone that as long as they are trying their best, that is enough, whilst trying your best and still not thinking you are achieving enough.

Think about the self-talk you give. Would you say these things to other people? If not, why say it to yourself? Treat yourself as a human being, a person who is allowed faults and flaws. If you wouldn't say something to your best friend, don't say it to yourself! For example, if a friend is struggling with an assignment, you try to be as supportive and reassuring as possible. However, if you are struggling, you may be incredibly harsh on yourself and could even make assumptions about yourself, perhaps thinking that you are not good enough or that you are not intelligent. Would you be this harsh to anyone else? I don't think so! If you wouldn't be harsh to others, why be harsh on yourself?

What is the take-home message for this little ramble? Basically, I think that we should all be a bit more kind to ourselves. I see so many people spend all their time caring for others and doing favours for others when really they need to take a step back and care for themselves a bit more. The more care you give to yourself, the more you will flourish and a true friend will rejoice at this! Sometimes, all they want is for you to feel good, rather than for you to spend all your time trying to please them.

Hope this rambling makes sense and that you took something from this x


  1. I loved this one, and agree with everything you've said. I know I am guilty of being much too hard on myself and often have to step back and think - would I really be saying this to someone else? Such a great reminder, thanks for sharing. xx

    Sneha |

    1. Really glad you liked the post! Hope you are well! x

  2. Beautiful! We all need to learn how to love ourselves a bit more!


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